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Personal Growth: "Self-Help" Books I've been LOVING

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I feel like the books in the "self-help" category carry such an unfortunate stigma about them, when in reality, self-improvement and growth should really be at the top of everyone's list, in my humble opinion. Over the last year I really dove into this category, and sought out other kinds of books that would teach me something new. I found a few books in particular to be so helpful that I truly cannot wait to read them again and again, and thought I would share them with you!


1. Untamed - by Glennon Doyle / 2. You are a Badass - by Jen Sincero / 3. So You Want to Talk About Race - by Ijeoma Oluo / 4. Furiously Happy - by Jenny Lawson / 5. Girl, Stop Apologizing - by Rachel Hollis


My Three Favorites:


UNTAMED - by Glennon Doyle

This. book. completely. changed. me. I honestly cannot stop talking about it! Glennon is such a powerful and eloquent writer, and guides the reader along on a journey to stop and think about your true self and how you would live your life if you were untamed -- free from the constraints of society and your prior life experiences. She helped me to see that despite my past wounds and fears, I can move through difficult challenges in life and feel comforted in knowing that "I can do hard things" and that I have the tools to create a beautiful life for myself.


YOU ARE A BADASS: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life - by Jen Sincero

This book was like having my own personal life coach, and I loved every minute of it. Jen helped open my eyes to concrete steps to pursue my passions boldly and confidently. I listened to this book on audio and was so captivated by it that I also bought the paper back version so that I can underline and tab all of the great ideas and points!


SO YOU WANT TO TALK ABOUT RACE - by Ijeoma Oluo

I was so incredibly happy to see this book had unlimited copies available on the Libby library app. In response to the Black Lives Matter social movement, I have been working on educating myself on racism in America. Racism can feel like such an overwhelming topic to discuss, especially because it's easy to fear saying the wrong thing when all you want to do is help. Ijeoma helps break down this topic in such a clear and impactful way. She really opened my eyes and helped me see myself and others in a new light. Unlike the other books on this list, where I felt like I couldn't read them fast enough because they were so relatable, this audiobook I was constantly pausing. It's the parts of this book that were not-relatable that caused me to really sit and reflect about the ways that my life has been so different, so privileged, from that of a person of color. I highly, highly recommend this book and wish that I read it sooner. This should be mandatory reading!


Others I read but loved less than the above books:


FURIOUSLY HAPPY: A Funny Book About Horrible Things - by Jenny Lawson

I'm not sure that this is meant to fall into the self-help category but it is such a great, eye-opening book about mental health. I learned so much from the author's personal experiences with mental health (primarily anxiety and depression) and definitely laughed out loud in several parts (she is very quick witted). However, for my own mental health, I need to focus on more uplifting books during quarantine and this made me feel overwhelmed and triggered my own anxiety at times. I plan to return to it when the world feels less upside-down.


GIRL, STOP APOLOGIZING: A Shame-Free Plan for Embracing and Achieving Your Goals - by Rachel Hollis

I have many friends who absolutely loved this book. While I ended up not finishing it since the tone was just not my style (it felt a little cliche to me), it definitely still had some good advice in there. So, give it a read and see if it speaks to you!

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